At times Saturday night Coach K jumped out of his chair and pumped his fists and exhorted his team with a fury, to no avail. He turned down a job he didn't want. Follow IndyStar trending sports reporterMatthew VanTryon on Twitter @MVanTryon and email him story ideas at matthew.vantryon@indystar.com. But the final break in the relationship, OConnor says, came in 2015. "Women tend to have more of a sensitivity to subliminal things," she says. All of his children has followed in his footsteps and attended Duke, undoubtedly making their father proud. It wasn't even about me liking the plant! But Krzyzewski's admirers in the corporate world consider his handling of such an array of stars to also be his primary challenge -- and one that they specifically relate to their own businesses. When he recruits a player, Krzyzewski tells him, "We're developing a relationship here, and if you're not interested, tell me sooner rather than later." 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CBS Sports is a registered trademark of CBS Broadcasting Inc. Commissioner.com is a registered trademark of CBS Interactive Inc. site: media | arena: collegebasketball | pageType: stories | WebMickie Krzyzewski is the wife of the NBA basketball team coach, Mike, and a philanthropist from Durham, North Carolina, and has been happily married for a whopping 52 years. Jamie earned her English degree from Duke in 2004 where she also minored in Linguistics. That irritating American Express commercial is blaring again during the college basketball telecasts. The Chicago stories came with maybe a little bit more of the Chicago accent, but not too much. This is The N&Os special report. Maybe you can superimpose a sunset, he said. On the Carolina bench, assistant Roy Williams initially thought an ACC rookie shouldnt treat a legend like that before he pivoted on further review. Krzyzewski likes to call West Point "the greatest leadership school in the world." This is hardly profound. His in-laws were pulling up. Ill do this, do that, and we can talk about the other team before the games. And he never got back to him, which was literally the worst thing he couldve done. And these kids made my last time in the arena an amazing one.. Mickie was born on September 26, 1946 in Alexandria, Virginia. Steve Wiseman has covered Duke athletics since 2010 for the Durham Herald-Sun and Raleigh News & Observer. Mike Krzyzewski was, now, to his admirers, his corporate acolytes and -- well, O.K., probably not to the author of the anti-Duke manifesto -- ever more worthy of admiration. But its branches drooped, making it look a little like a forlorn Christmas tree. The Krzyzewskis like board games and bocce and Motown songs, and Frasher would sometimes watch as one of sports most celebrated figures got a few glasses deep into an Opus or Silver Oak during Thanksgiving or some other special occasion. Almost everything in leadership comes back to relationships. Hes won numerous state-level press association awards. (The word "this," for example, comes out sounding more like "dis.") "I had never known someone who could be so honest and so blatantly stupid," Mickie Krzyzewski told me. 4 recruit in Class of 2024, commits to Arizona, NBA announces 242 players declaring early for draft, SEC considers hefty penalties for court storming. Or [Team] USA, Krzyzewski said. It was his willingness to evolve. Talking to the M.B.A. students at Fuqua that day, Krzyzewski was typically self-deprecating: "'What the hell did you do during the summer?' He was finally done with Coach Knight.. Growing up around basketball, it was only natural a few of the Krzyzewski daughters pursued a career in athletics at Duke University. It was clear-cut. When Krzyzewski started at West Point in the summer of 1965, one of his first tasks was to swim as far as he could in water seven feet deep while carrying a 10-pound brick. If the right mood hits, Coach might disappear into the kitchen to fetch a spoon, then return to serenade Mickie and everyone else by singing Smokey Robinsons Ooh Baby Baby into his silver microphone. And Jamies dad is a noted perfectionist and alpha who usually gets his way. He visited him at Fort Sill and interrogated Chriss commander about his son-in-laws safety. Since then Coach K has taken every opportunity to outline their many differences while still staying on Knights good side wherever that is undoubtedly a stickier task than teaching dozens of trophy makers how to spell his name., More:Coach K and Bobby Knight: A season on the bench. The friendships can, on the one hand, be viewed as rich, successful guys wanting to hang out with each other -- and C.E.O. We've received your submission. And maybe leadership itself is not complicated but, rather, primal: one person's ability to reach another and persuade him to be part of a team, all pulling in some common direction. Mike Krzyzewski has five national championships and a record-setting 1,170 victories. Whose decision was this? asked Krzyzewski, Dukes legendary mens basketball coach and Chris Spatolas father-in-law. ", Later, after we spoke, Krzyzewski confronted his team behind closed doors. Her husband, Chris, was nervous. In his third game as Blue Devils coach, with a Tar Heels victory secured, Dean Smith made the mistake of walking toward the Duke bench for a handshake while two meaningless free throws still needed to be shot.Coach K rejected the handshake. "The Anti-Duke Manifesto," which is widely circulated on the Internet and typical of some of the vitriol aimed at Krzyzewski, reads something like a federal indictment and, at more than 6,000 words, runs about as long. Fairly packed crowd, and notice the cheerleaders in the background. One former Duke player, Mark Alarie, recalls that Krzyzewski ripped a picture of him off the locker-room wall after a game, a theatrical move that would seem unworthy of a bad Hollywood sports drama. (Duke Athletics), Krzyzewski calls timeout during his Early days at West Point. Shes worked at Duke since 2002, currently as an assistant athletics director for special events and director of the basketball programs Legacy Fund. All good West Point men know how it goes. "It is completely analogous to a lot of business situations. 2021-22. Spatola, mostly joking but not entirely, says he told his father-in-law he would sue him if he did that or maybe call the cops. "Mostly, I've been in a male world," he said. His game was basketball, not male bonding. By that time, I had been to combat. This article was published more than1 year ago. They have three daughters: Debbie, Lindy, and Jamie. PricewaterhouseCoopers has so far sent about 500 senior associates and managers -- most of them "partners in the making," as they were described to me -- to study Duke basketball in a "metaphoric context" to help them reach personal and professional goals. "Don't get too close," he said. (As at most N.C.A.A. In addition, he has helped raise more than $30 million so far for the Duke basketball "legacy fund," which among other things provides basketball scholarships, and he helped create a 30,000-square-foot community center in downtown Durham (the Emily Krzyzewski Family Life Center, named for his mother). 0:51 The relationship between Bob Knight and Mike Krzyzewski began as one between teacher and student. ", To a man, the Duke players I talked to, both current and former, say they consider Krzyzewski's most important attribute to be his honesty, even if it is a sometimes brutal honesty. Alarie, now a venture capitalist, played five years in the N.B.A. And Im sure thats the thing when Ill look back that Ill miss. Krzyzewski is a wealthy man: he reportedly makes about $1.5 million a year coaching basketball at Duke and several million dollars more a year from endorsements and corporate speaking. Mickie Krzyzewski is expected to be between the ages of 60 and 65, and her young photos may become available to the public after some time. It was calculated, but when you're in the moment, it doesn't come across as that. Knight was Krzyzewskis coach at Army from 1966-1969. Shes worked with Dukes basketball team for more than a decade as a staff counselor and is currently dean of Durham Academys Upper School. The United States was embarrassed with a bronze-medal finish at the 2004 Summer Olympics, and Krzyzewski was chosen to reclaim the gold. (Getty Images), It's Coach K in fatigues -- well after his West point years. Besides, they know he probably will open the best one anyway. WebMike Krzyzewski was young, unproven, inexperienced and terrified when his boss summoned him early one morning in January 1984. "You know what? The speaker must be a person of high achievement but, ideally, not so lofty in manner that no one can connect with him. The relationship between Bob Knight and Mike Krzyzewski began as one between teacher and student. He is the golden boy taken to a ridiculous extreme. ", Mickie Krzyzewski was raised in Alexandria, Va., and attended a small Southern Baptist college, but left before graduating. Michael Jordan was part of that team, and one day after practice he asked Krzyzewski to help him work on some offensive moves. The books don't straight out tell male executives to be more like women, but that message is clear. Rejecting that kind of money, as Krzyzewski did, was its own kind of life-changing event -- "a point of demarcation," his agent, David Falk, calls it. Just getting the intense competitor to acknowledge, let alone address, his limitations was a daunting task, according to his wife, Mickie Krzyzewski. They speculated that he might be the best-conditioned player in all of college basketball. "So when I teach those things, I'm able to start at a different level.". They're like three teenage boys going down there, giggling and excited, Lindy says. Love this picture; it's like they're posing for a rock-band photoshoot. he asked his instructor. When it was over and this 81-77 North Carolina victory was frozen in forevers lights, I asked the 75-year-old grandfather of 10 if that Michigan State rally that started it all would be his enduring tournament memory after the pain subsides. I heard him begin a speech to a corporate group by recognizing several friends in the audience, including a renowned knee surgeon who many years ago had operated on his ankle. He is set to succeed Coach K as Duke head coach starting in the 2022-23 season. He told stories about his Chicago roots and his mother, who despite never going beyond the eighth grade was the wisest person he has known. Debbie graduated from Duke in 1993 with a sociology degree. Spending more time with his grandchildren. Who pays for dinner when youre out with Coach K? "What it means is that they have probably already learned about discipline, about being on a team, about being part of something bigger than themselves," he says. Jamie and her husband, Chris Spatola, live in Hillsborough. Alan D. Schwartz is the president of Bear Stearns, a Wall Street firm that generated more than $7 billion in revenue last year. In a ceremony and news conference Thursday morning in Durham, N.C., Duke mens basketball coach Mike Krzyzewski explained his decision to retire next spring as No more plays to call. "Before I got to West Point, I was the golden boy of my neighborhood," he says. "I don't look at myself as a basketball coach," he says in the ad. Emily Krzyzewski was famous for her chocolate chip cookies, and Mlynski remembers the half-gallon of ice cream she served with every meal. Her family also is responsible for that jet-black hair. Jamie has taught high school English, co-authored two books with her father and is vice chair of the Emily K Center, a college access nonprofit for Durham students. "I was a mathematician,$(2$) Douglas Breeden, dean of the Fuqua School of Business, says. The best insights from the ultimate insiders, 2023 NYP Holdings, Inc. 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Beautiful because those tears proved how much his kids cared, and how hard they had competed. "It was usually more about what a player might be thinking or feeling, but if she has something to say about basketball, believe me, they listen to her. He issued a rant decorated with profanity, according to a subsequent New York Times story, and scatological and anatomical references.. 's wanting to rub up against a sports figure. But in an era of rampant lawlessness in big-time college sports, Duke players have generally stayed out of trouble and away from the antisocial behavior that has occurred within the all-male caldrons of other programs. Coach K and Bobby Knight: A season on the bench, Your California Privacy Rights / Privacy Policy. Ive been blessed to be in the arena, Krzyzewski said. Frasher told him sharing a first name should make him easy to remember. Real-time updates and all local stories you want right in the palm of your hand. Krzyzewski finds the exchange hilarious. The coach who came calling was Bobby Knight, then the head man at the United States Military Academy at West Point. It opened in 2003 and raised about $8 million in its first year, including $2 million to endow a Coach K Professorship in Leadership. He's good. They remembered the feeling that the detail brought, and the feeling before that, where as men we remember only the final feeling. During the first years of their marriage, Frasher says, he attended family gatherings but didnt say much. But Frasher and Spatola have no idea what to get Krzyzewski for a retirement gift. They're not used to that. All those national championships. And not simply good in an Al Davis "Just win, baby" kind of way. Krzyzewski, who turns 59 this month, came onstage just after his American Express commercial finished playing on a giant video screen. NEW ORLEANS Mike Krzyzewski took his seat in the back of a golf cart next to his bride of 53 years, Mickie, the flight attendant he married the day he graduated from West Point. Duke players constantly consult with one another on the court without looking to the bench for direction or approval. If a guy does, we call him a blowhard or a know-it-all, so we don't do it. (USATSI), Krzyzewski is greeted by adorers after walking off the court and winning the 2011 ACC tourney. And she says, 'O.K., but there is.' "They're like my little brothers, and I'd kill someone on their behalf if I had to.". He always looks for a few women because "they're more emotional, and when I talk about those things, they get it. All Rights Reserved. And how do you address him? How do you take a group of people like that and say, 'Some of you are actually better than others? In the American Express commercial, Krzyzewski says, "My life isn't about playing games," but in a literal sense, that's all his career has been about. Look each other straight in the eye, tell the truth, full disclosure. He has been married to his wife for more than forty years. Michael Sokolove is a contributing writer for The New York Times Magazine. We cant afford better wine for him than he can afford for himself, Jamie says. He has the right to his own standards. Steve graduated from Illinois State University in 1989. ", Redick says that he was "living a college lifestyle. We're all about the end of the story, the punch line. These qualities buttress his status and authority, but they form just one layer, an outer layer. ", Mike Krzyzewski says that his wife has served as a kind of early-warning system, that she can see things he can't: "Mickie will say to me, 'There's something wrong with Shane.' Jamie was caught in the middle of this, essentially two rams clashing over a tree nobody liked. The greatest to ever do it, Krzyzewski sure adored his last group of players. Theyve been a joy for me to coach, he said. Yes, it is impolitic in some circles to suggest that the role of women is to civilize men. He was every father-in-law ever. There is a distinct internal psychology to these sorts of gatherings. (In other words, if you weren't great, you wouldn't be here.). "It just knocked me back because there was stuff I had never been exposed to. Hes somewhat intimidating, and you dont want to do it. The setting was the Broadmoor, a fancy resort that was hosting a conference of several hundred hospital executives put together by McKesson, a company that specializes in health care services. So when someone enters the coachs realm with the bold intention of dating one of his daughters, Jamie finds the proceedings highly entertaining.
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